There will always be issues relating to culture and traditions which will come face to face with law. One must be careful in handling such issues. One such issue is Triple Talaq.
Whenever such issue arises, first thing to see is how this issue clears the test of humanity. Culture and traditions are important but not more than humanity. No culture or tradition should ever do anything that hurts human rights or take away their dignity. Since everyone is clear that Triple Talaq causes deep anguish and pain to women, it is unjust to them.
There should be no hesitation in declaring immediate complete ban on it.
But the issue does not end here. Divorce and separation is not new to marriage. A ban on Triple Talaq is only small part of bigger issue. If stopped here, it will not solve real issue and may give rise to more problems.
- Will it solve marital disharmony
- Will it end greed which is one of the cause of marital disharmony
The answer is no.
No marriage can be kept by force or law. Infact any such attempt will lead to bigger bitterness and poor family atmosphere which will have devastating effect on both partners, kids and other family members.
To actually solve issue which can lead to happy families some necessary steps must be taken.
- Progressive rational people from community must come forward and they must themself denounce Triple Talaq to show correct path to future generation.
- There must be proactive counseling process to resolve issues amicably. Most cases can be resolved without any need for bitterness.
- Relationship is always mutual. The most important thing is dignity of women. This can only be achieved by empowering women. There must be education, skill training and support so that no woman should feel helpless.
- Remember that divorce is better than bitter marriage. The legal divorce process must be made simpler and quick so that those who are unhappy in marriage can legally seek separation and restart their life.
Why should women stick to a marriage in which they are not getting due respect. Women should get strong enough to walk out such marriage even before other can utter the word. In fact women are strong, they just need to realize this. Women are capable of handling office, home, children and all other tasks with much more efficiency. All they need is timely education and skill training. And they will never plead against divorce. It is for men to understand value of women in his life. This is what we need in our value based education. The day man and woman learn to value each other, all such problems like divorce and harassment will end.
Whenever such issue arises, first thing to see is how this issue clears the test of humanity. Culture and traditions are important but not more than humanity. No culture or tradition should ever do anything that hurts human rights or take away their dignity. Since everyone is clear that Triple Talaq causes deep anguish and pain to women, it is unjust to them.
There should be no hesitation in declaring immediate complete ban on it.
But the issue does not end here. Divorce and separation is not new to marriage. A ban on Triple Talaq is only small part of bigger issue. If stopped here, it will not solve real issue and may give rise to more problems.
- Will it solve marital disharmony
- Will it end greed which is one of the cause of marital disharmony
The answer is no.
No marriage can be kept by force or law. Infact any such attempt will lead to bigger bitterness and poor family atmosphere which will have devastating effect on both partners, kids and other family members.
To actually solve issue which can lead to happy families some necessary steps must be taken.
- Progressive rational people from community must come forward and they must themself denounce Triple Talaq to show correct path to future generation.
- There must be proactive counseling process to resolve issues amicably. Most cases can be resolved without any need for bitterness.
- Relationship is always mutual. The most important thing is dignity of women. This can only be achieved by empowering women. There must be education, skill training and support so that no woman should feel helpless.
- Remember that divorce is better than bitter marriage. The legal divorce process must be made simpler and quick so that those who are unhappy in marriage can legally seek separation and restart their life.
Why should women stick to a marriage in which they are not getting due respect. Women should get strong enough to walk out such marriage even before other can utter the word. In fact women are strong, they just need to realize this. Women are capable of handling office, home, children and all other tasks with much more efficiency. All they need is timely education and skill training. And they will never plead against divorce. It is for men to understand value of women in his life. This is what we need in our value based education. The day man and woman learn to value each other, all such problems like divorce and harassment will end.
